I really like your hair, but i understand your struggle of think about removing them. I'm always busy with my hair, should i cut it short or keep it long? It can keep me busy all day, haha! I once want my hair really short (like pixie short) and bam! went to the hairdresser the other day and it was short. Never regret it by the way. But what i mean to say is, it's your hair, do with it what your heart tells you to do. I think you are a beautiful person, with or without dreads ;) just follow your heart!
Well well well - just by bringing the subject up - it means you are ready and willing for a change...And don't be afraid of losing THE conversation subject.Put it this way:--- You had dreads for 6 years ( I think - in secret - we all had dreads through you LOL) and that's enough for at least 6 years of discussions - after... ;) PSThis is a funny thing to say from my side, since my brother is preparing to have dreads in the future. I vote Yes for both changes. If it feels right - do it :)
It's totally understandable what you're growing through. I think it's ultimately okay to feel that way. I recently had the same feelings over my stretched lobes (29mm), which I also had stretched for the course of 6 years and like you too, for the last year I felt indifferent about them. I think it was hard because of the thought of the journey, and because essentially I invested a lot of time, love, and energy into them. Nonetheless, in these situations these modifications become a part of you, it's hard to say if they define you but they definitely translate into who you are as a person. Ultimately, I went through with it and retired them. Now my lobes have shrunk significantly to the size of a looseleaf paper hole. I think it's sad sometimes, and when I look at the array of plugs and oils I have I contemplate stretching again. It seems like I'm going off on a tangent here, but what I'm trying to emphasize is that it's okay to feel this way about something you invest in, and that notion of change is always okay too. Just think of your life as a book, in which chapters don't ever go on forever. There'll be a chapter before having dreadlocks and a lovely one after. Best wishes!
I had dreads for a few years and brushed them out, and now I have dreads again after a few years of enjoying my natural hair. Life is for living, feeling, going on adventures. Your dreads are an adventure! You are still so young, and if you ever wanted to, you could get dreads again - I know that the years you have had them have made them absolutely beautiful, and all that hard work will be really sad to lose. There will be times where you look at old photos and miss them and pine for them. But, in my experience, once those thoughts about taking them out pop in your head there is no getting rid of them! As soon as they creep in, as you are experiencing now, you will obsess over it and I think the only way to stop them is to brush out your dreads.Like I said, life is an adventure full of experiences, and you have experienced dreads and grown beautiful dreadlocks. Maybe now is the time to experience a different adventure.Don't get me wrong, I think your dreads are amazing. You are my role model for my dreads now, because of you I stopped obsessing over flat lumpy bits and started absolutely adoring them! I aspire to have dreads like yours. But I think, from watching you talk about it, a part of you has made up your mind, and like I said before, once you start obsessing over whether to take them out I think there is no going back. i obsessed about taking mine out for so long, all I could do was think about it. So I did it. And at first I felt sick and a little "oh god have I done the right thing?" but I stopped obsessing about it once I did it, and I reminded myself of all the annoying aspects of having dreads.I hope I helped a bit. I dont want to push you in either direction! I love your dreads and think you should keep them, but that is my selfish view. in my honest view, I know the feeling of obsessing over taking them out and I know that the only way to feel better was to take them out. but I did get them back years later and I love them even more second time round! :) Gwynn x
Don't do it! I love your dread locks (personal opinion)
I did a similar thing to you where I started brushing out the ends and it got to a point of no return. I brushed it out in stages as it was tedious to do (maybe over 2 months). I found soaking my hair whilst sitting in a bath and brushing it when it was wet and heavily conditioned the easiest and most effective way of removing them. Can you get that brand Aussie Hair products in Denmark? I used the 3 minute miracle conditioner to remove them and it was amazing stuff! I also tried the Knotty Boy dread removal kit but that wasn't so great. Also a tail comb was useful for brushing them out and then when there were 'locks' or tough places in the dread the tail part of the comb was effective in pushing out the knot. My hair is very similar to yours and I managed to keep a lot of length after brushing them out with my hair in fairly good condition so it's possible! :D I do miss my dreads now, especially miss the conversations it started with people and the ease of just putting them up in a bun on my head. Good luck :-)
I'm not going to lie to you. I regret taking out my last set of dreads, but I made the decision the be more natural, and I didn't want to wait at all for it to grow out and be natural on it's own. So, I decided to cut my hair short and try again later. I wish I had more patience for it, but sometimes you need a change. I'm going to grow my hair out as long as I can without dying it a tremendous amount and try again.I mean, I support you 100% in your decision, but at the same time, do you think you might regret it? You can always get them again later if you do? It's just hair :p I do wish I had dreads like you, and I wish we didn't have to lose so much length with getting dreads. ONE DAY I will have dreads as fabulous as yours. But right now, I have a lot to work on within myself before I can get dreads again. :) Sorry about ranting, just giving you my viewpoint of where I'm at. I think if you need a change, then by all means, do it! But if you're unsure, don't get rid of them. I promise you'll regret it and there's no undoing what you've done! But also, like I said before, it's just hair!!! :D
go for it! ♥
I dont think this dilemma is all black or white. I dont see why you think you have two choices - either comb all of them out, of dread the tips again. Your dreadlocks are beautifully unique because they are the way they are! My locks looks quite similar to yours (blonde hair,your method), and I have also started combing mine out, getting lots of compliments about it, and i LOVE that it gives me the opportunity to fit more into all sorts of social groups, and the feminine look. However, if you feel like they are more of a bother to you than they are doing good, then you should consider combing them out. But it is a personal choice only you can make. And you dont have to hurry :) Hugs from a Norway:)
May I ask what comb you used to brush out the tips?
May I ask what comb you use to brush out the tips?